So apparently a study was done, and researches have found that the average male lies 6 times a day, and the average female lies 3 times a day. I personally am not a huge fan of lying, but even without knowing research was done, I can tell you, it's not if someone is lying, it's why they are lying. And while I can't sit here and tell you that I live up to the program of Radical Honesty, I can easily sit here and tell you that I rarely ever lie anymore, and I tend to look differently at people that have lied to me numerous times.
But before you jump to conclusions, let me explain, there is a different in lying, and telling a joke. And for me, if I tell a joke in which case I would have lied, I end up coming back in the end and saying that I'm just joking around. So while it is technically a lie, it's not the kind that can get you into trouble.
So what is the point of lying. The obvious choice would be to hide something from someone. I have nothing to hide. Ask me a question, and I have no problem telling you what I think. Just be prepared that it may not be the answer you are looking for. So back to the point of lying. I personally don't see why people feel the need to lie. If you have a problem telling the truth, then don't say anything at all.
In most cases, nothing good can come from lying to someone (as a poker player I can argue this two ways, but that's another story). I have found this out firsthand, and is probably one of the biggest reasons I don't lie anymore. I would assume that if others had negative experiences with lying, they would probably stop too. Especially if you end up losing a friendship over it, as was the case with me. It's tough to think of someone you used to be close to, knowing you looked them in the face and lied to them, and that's the reason why you are no longer friends with them. Sometimes it can even eat away at you. It's also just as tough to look at someone lie to your face, knowing that they are lying, and knowing that they think they can pull it off. It's tough to keep friendships when they are built on lies.
So to anyone reading this, I offer a piece of advice for when you are talking to me, and when you are talking to anyone really. Don't lie. There is no need to lie. Tell the truth, and if someone else doesn't agree, then argue for a minute, and then move on, because odds are you were lying about something stupid anyway.
So I suppose if I am going to write a blog on lies, and how I don't like them, I should probably be totally honest with myself and with anyone reading this. As much as I disregard lying, and how I am personally against it, I must say, I am probably carrying the biggest lie of all, or at least of all the people I know.
Some people say, that if you tell a lie enough, you will start to believe it, and then blur the lie with reality, and that it will become difficult for you to know what is the truth. Well, for anyone that hasn't carried out a lie for a long period of time, I can also confirm that this too is true. And while the line between the lie and reality isn't blurred for me, I have reached the point where I no longer think of it as a lie when I have to explain it to other people. I can easily tell the story to anyone as if it's the truth, even though I know it's a lie. How big is the lie, you may ask. Well I'll tell you this, I will take it with me to my grave, because unfortunately, this is the one lie, that I know if it is revealed, will not only destroy me, but destroy the one true person I care most about.
So I'll leave you on a quote that I have come to appreciate.
“I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies.”
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Facebook Addictions
Well, I suppose this could actually be titled as 'Facebook Application Addictions', but I figure lets keep it short. So what qualifies as being addicted to a Facebook application? People might think if you are on Facebook, or just your computer in general, for longer than a few hours each day, that you are addicted. But I think that is slightly skewed. I am on the internet and Facebook for probably 10 hours a day or so. But I'm not on giving my full attention for the full 10 hours. I have my computer on all the time, and I leave an internet tab open that is kept on Facebook. So am I slightly addicted? Probably yes. But I'm not totally addicted. I am more addicted to other things, like sleep for example. I even schedule 8 hours of my day specifically for sleep.
So Facebook applications. I concentrate on Mousehunt and Farmville. There are a few others that I play occasionally, but Mousehunt and Farmville top the list. But I wouldn't say that I am addicted to either. A lot of people would say I am addicted to both, but I don't see it that way. With Farmville, for those that don't know, you plant crops and when they are finished, you harvest them. Then rinse and repeat! Each crop takes a certain amount of time. For me, if I am going to sleep at 12, and I have a break the next day at 10, why not plant something that takes 10 hours. It doesn't effect my day, and I wouldn't say that's addicted. Never have I actually planned my life around Farmville.
For Mousehunt, for those that don't know, you have a trap, you upgrade, and you catch mice, and you will catch stronger mice as the game progresses. In terms of 'playing' the game, all you do is sound the horn, which sets off your trap, and you can only do this once every 15 minutes. So when you consider the few seconds it takes to hit the horn, and the fact that you can only do it once every 15 minutes, you are really actually 'playing' the game for less than 10 minutes a day. And while I have to be in front of a computer to hit the horn, I wouldn't say I am addicted. Although I will say that I can now do just about anything in 15 minutes or less. And also, there is a function of the game, where if you have friends that play, they can hit the horn for you if you are hunting in the same area and you are online, with online meaning you have been on the application within the last hour. So really, you can just be on the game once and hour, and let your friends handle the game. But I don't really let the game take over my life. I have no problem putting the game on hold and going out on a Friday night and hanging with friends.
So back to the original question, what qualifies as being addicted to a application? Am I slightly addicted? Yes. Does the game run my life? No. Well, for Mousehunt, the people at the top of the leaderboard, are, in my words, overly addicted. So as you have read earlier, you can just be active once and hour, and let your friends handle the game for you. Well, the people at the top of the leaderboard, they wake up at night, in hourly increments (59 minute increments to be exact), and this allows them to stay active and let their friends hit the horn for them, thus allowing them to stay atop the leaderboard. I would never do that. Sleep is too important to me.
And while I can't come up with an exact case of overly addicted for Farmville, I will add, that if you decide to make another Facebook profile just to play a certain application more, then you are addicted. I guess technically this has happened to me 3 times, as I have gotten a friend request from someone I am already friends with, but they made another account to play more games. That's a little extreme. And to push it to the limits even further, one of my friends made a 3rd account, just to play Facebook games! In cases like this, I must say.......'people have problems yo.'
So to recap. If you plan your life around Facebook games, you have a problem (as in overly addicted). If you make another account to play more often, you have a problem. And if you make a 3rd account, or maybe even more than that, then you have problems yo.
So Facebook applications. I concentrate on Mousehunt and Farmville. There are a few others that I play occasionally, but Mousehunt and Farmville top the list. But I wouldn't say that I am addicted to either. A lot of people would say I am addicted to both, but I don't see it that way. With Farmville, for those that don't know, you plant crops and when they are finished, you harvest them. Then rinse and repeat! Each crop takes a certain amount of time. For me, if I am going to sleep at 12, and I have a break the next day at 10, why not plant something that takes 10 hours. It doesn't effect my day, and I wouldn't say that's addicted. Never have I actually planned my life around Farmville.
For Mousehunt, for those that don't know, you have a trap, you upgrade, and you catch mice, and you will catch stronger mice as the game progresses. In terms of 'playing' the game, all you do is sound the horn, which sets off your trap, and you can only do this once every 15 minutes. So when you consider the few seconds it takes to hit the horn, and the fact that you can only do it once every 15 minutes, you are really actually 'playing' the game for less than 10 minutes a day. And while I have to be in front of a computer to hit the horn, I wouldn't say I am addicted. Although I will say that I can now do just about anything in 15 minutes or less. And also, there is a function of the game, where if you have friends that play, they can hit the horn for you if you are hunting in the same area and you are online, with online meaning you have been on the application within the last hour. So really, you can just be on the game once and hour, and let your friends handle the game. But I don't really let the game take over my life. I have no problem putting the game on hold and going out on a Friday night and hanging with friends.
So back to the original question, what qualifies as being addicted to a application? Am I slightly addicted? Yes. Does the game run my life? No. Well, for Mousehunt, the people at the top of the leaderboard, are, in my words, overly addicted. So as you have read earlier, you can just be active once and hour, and let your friends handle the game for you. Well, the people at the top of the leaderboard, they wake up at night, in hourly increments (59 minute increments to be exact), and this allows them to stay active and let their friends hit the horn for them, thus allowing them to stay atop the leaderboard. I would never do that. Sleep is too important to me.
And while I can't come up with an exact case of overly addicted for Farmville, I will add, that if you decide to make another Facebook profile just to play a certain application more, then you are addicted. I guess technically this has happened to me 3 times, as I have gotten a friend request from someone I am already friends with, but they made another account to play more games. That's a little extreme. And to push it to the limits even further, one of my friends made a 3rd account, just to play Facebook games! In cases like this, I must say.......'people have problems yo.'
So to recap. If you plan your life around Facebook games, you have a problem (as in overly addicted). If you make another account to play more often, you have a problem. And if you make a 3rd account, or maybe even more than that, then you have problems yo.
Monday, April 5, 2010
Retarded People in Georgetown
So for those that don't know, I grew up and currently live in Georgetown, SC. And when I say retarded people, I don't mean mentally challenged people, I am referring to people that make stupid decisions that make no sense.
So my family owns a restaurant, and growing up with that experience I have met numerous people that have worked for us. A few of those people have turned into good friends, and a few have turned into memories one would want to forget. But about a month and a half ago, we hired this waitress who could fall under the nutcase category. This girl is like 17 or 18, I never went back and verified it, but she was either 17 or 18. She also has a kid, who was somewhere around a few months old. On a side note, I tend to look down on 'kids' that have children at such a young age. There are a few exceptions, but it's poor decision making on the girls part in most cases. There is no way that a girl that is in high school, without a job, without a stable family, and with no means to support herself, plans on having a kid. In my opinion, it is utter stupidity.
But back to the main story. 17 or 18 year old girl, nutcase, already has a child. So within the first few days of her working for us, she meets some guy that came in the restaurant. And not just any guy, this guy is 38, divorced, and has 4 kids, with the oldest being 13. Imagine having a stepmother or stepfather who is just a few years older than you. Again, terrible decision making by people to put themselves in this position. So now your probably thinking, well, there are numerous stories like this in the world. But of course, I reply with, I'm only about half way finished with the story. So apparently after only 2 weeks of seeing this guy, both have come to the conclusion that it is love at first sight and they are meant to be together. So now they are planning a wedding date, after only 2 weeks of being together. And that wedding date is less than 4 months away.
I suppose I can buy into the whole love at first sight thing. I am sure there are instances where it has actually happened and the relationship gone smoothly. But to plan a wedding date so fast, and so soon, that's a little extreme for me. It would be extremely difficult for me to meet someone and then want to marry them just 4 months later. You really don't know them, I mean, how could you. I am a big believer in the saying, you truly don't know someone until you live with them, and if your gonna marry someone, you should know them pretty well.
So back to the story. It's not quite over yet. So, now that they have picked out a wedding date, the next step in a crazy relationship is....you guessed it, having a baby. So two weeks after meeting this guy, a wedding date is picked out, and now they want to have a baby, and are trying to have a baby. And two weeks later, she is pregnant. Like, who plans their life like this? It really is amazing, how some people act and the decisions that they make. So a quick recap for anyone who got lost, a 17 or 18 year old girl, with a child, meets this guy, who is divorced with 4 kids, the oldest being 13, and 2 weeks later, they have a wedding date selected, and 2 weeks after that, she is pregnant.
So she is no longer with us anymore, and the girl we hired to replace her, is 17, and turns out she also has a child. But at least her story isn't as bad as the last. But two weeks later, we find out that she has moved, and is going to be living with her 'ex-boyfriend' who is the father of her child. A little bit of advice that I can offer anyone reading this, if you have a job, and you want to quit, call your boss. Just explain to them that it isn't working and you have to find work elsewhere. You will get a lot more respect from them if you call and explain the situation, instead of just ignoring the business and never showing up again. Respect is hard to get in the workplace, so don't do something stupid to lose yours.
So I thought we were moving in the right direction, making our staff better, but it turns out good help is hard to find. You would think in a tough economy that people would care about having a job, but it's surprising that a lot of people don't care. One of our weekend waitresses that we have now is pretty good, and she is really good-looking, so in my opinion, that's always a good thing. It works for Hooters. Hopefully in the future we can avoid nutcases and start finding good quality workers that care about having a job.
So my family owns a restaurant, and growing up with that experience I have met numerous people that have worked for us. A few of those people have turned into good friends, and a few have turned into memories one would want to forget. But about a month and a half ago, we hired this waitress who could fall under the nutcase category. This girl is like 17 or 18, I never went back and verified it, but she was either 17 or 18. She also has a kid, who was somewhere around a few months old. On a side note, I tend to look down on 'kids' that have children at such a young age. There are a few exceptions, but it's poor decision making on the girls part in most cases. There is no way that a girl that is in high school, without a job, without a stable family, and with no means to support herself, plans on having a kid. In my opinion, it is utter stupidity.
But back to the main story. 17 or 18 year old girl, nutcase, already has a child. So within the first few days of her working for us, she meets some guy that came in the restaurant. And not just any guy, this guy is 38, divorced, and has 4 kids, with the oldest being 13. Imagine having a stepmother or stepfather who is just a few years older than you. Again, terrible decision making by people to put themselves in this position. So now your probably thinking, well, there are numerous stories like this in the world. But of course, I reply with, I'm only about half way finished with the story. So apparently after only 2 weeks of seeing this guy, both have come to the conclusion that it is love at first sight and they are meant to be together. So now they are planning a wedding date, after only 2 weeks of being together. And that wedding date is less than 4 months away.
I suppose I can buy into the whole love at first sight thing. I am sure there are instances where it has actually happened and the relationship gone smoothly. But to plan a wedding date so fast, and so soon, that's a little extreme for me. It would be extremely difficult for me to meet someone and then want to marry them just 4 months later. You really don't know them, I mean, how could you. I am a big believer in the saying, you truly don't know someone until you live with them, and if your gonna marry someone, you should know them pretty well.
So back to the story. It's not quite over yet. So, now that they have picked out a wedding date, the next step in a crazy relationship is....you guessed it, having a baby. So two weeks after meeting this guy, a wedding date is picked out, and now they want to have a baby, and are trying to have a baby. And two weeks later, she is pregnant. Like, who plans their life like this? It really is amazing, how some people act and the decisions that they make. So a quick recap for anyone who got lost, a 17 or 18 year old girl, with a child, meets this guy, who is divorced with 4 kids, the oldest being 13, and 2 weeks later, they have a wedding date selected, and 2 weeks after that, she is pregnant.
So she is no longer with us anymore, and the girl we hired to replace her, is 17, and turns out she also has a child. But at least her story isn't as bad as the last. But two weeks later, we find out that she has moved, and is going to be living with her 'ex-boyfriend' who is the father of her child. A little bit of advice that I can offer anyone reading this, if you have a job, and you want to quit, call your boss. Just explain to them that it isn't working and you have to find work elsewhere. You will get a lot more respect from them if you call and explain the situation, instead of just ignoring the business and never showing up again. Respect is hard to get in the workplace, so don't do something stupid to lose yours.
So I thought we were moving in the right direction, making our staff better, but it turns out good help is hard to find. You would think in a tough economy that people would care about having a job, but it's surprising that a lot of people don't care. One of our weekend waitresses that we have now is pretty good, and she is really good-looking, so in my opinion, that's always a good thing. It works for Hooters. Hopefully in the future we can avoid nutcases and start finding good quality workers that care about having a job.
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Philadelphia Eagles
Well, I was gonna do a post today about retarded people in Georgetown, but that will get pushed back to tomorrow because I feel I need to say a few words on the Eagles.
So around 8:30ish, the Eagles front office decided to finally trade Donovan McNabb. For the past few years now, the biggest offseason talk in football was whether or not Brett Favre would retire or not, and are the Eagles gonna trade McNabb. I am a huge McNabb fan, so I am personally not happy with the trade, but after all that has happened with the Eagles here recently, this trade is in no way a surprise, and I suppose I am glad it is finally over so we can move forward as a team. I haven't been a big supporter of Kevin Kolb, the guy who is now supposedly the face of our franchise, but scouts over the league praise his accuracy and say he is a better fit in the West Coast System than McNabb. I suppose that gives me hope with this team in the future, but Kolb's play on the field will need to be impressive for me to fully switch my thoughts on him. In Philadelphia, Kolb will now forever be judged by what he doesn't do.
But what worries me the most, isn't that we traded a borderline Hall of Fame QB to a division rival, but it is now our lack of leadership in the locker room. A few years ago, we released Jeremiah Trotter, who at the time was a great player on the field, and a huge leader for our defense and in the locker room. Supposedly it was because we were getting younger on the defensive side of the ball, so I 'went with the flo'. That backfired, as the linebacker who replaced Trotter was benched last season, and another linebacker who was suppose to help us get younger was traded away. Last offseason, we lost Brian Dawkins, the face of the Philadelphia Eagles defense, a HUGE leader in the organization, because management was too stingy to give him a decent contract offer. Huge loss for us. Earlier this offseason, we released Brian Westbrook, the key to our offense this decade, and later traded away cornerback Sheldon Brown, one of the better shutdown corners in the league. Now we trade away McNabb, and we literally have no veterans on this team. Hopefully our front office knows what they are doing, because right now, it doesn't look good. I'll back my team, because that's what real fans do, but I have to be honest, I don't know what to expect this upcoming season.
So around 8:30ish, the Eagles front office decided to finally trade Donovan McNabb. For the past few years now, the biggest offseason talk in football was whether or not Brett Favre would retire or not, and are the Eagles gonna trade McNabb. I am a huge McNabb fan, so I am personally not happy with the trade, but after all that has happened with the Eagles here recently, this trade is in no way a surprise, and I suppose I am glad it is finally over so we can move forward as a team. I haven't been a big supporter of Kevin Kolb, the guy who is now supposedly the face of our franchise, but scouts over the league praise his accuracy and say he is a better fit in the West Coast System than McNabb. I suppose that gives me hope with this team in the future, but Kolb's play on the field will need to be impressive for me to fully switch my thoughts on him. In Philadelphia, Kolb will now forever be judged by what he doesn't do.
But what worries me the most, isn't that we traded a borderline Hall of Fame QB to a division rival, but it is now our lack of leadership in the locker room. A few years ago, we released Jeremiah Trotter, who at the time was a great player on the field, and a huge leader for our defense and in the locker room. Supposedly it was because we were getting younger on the defensive side of the ball, so I 'went with the flo'. That backfired, as the linebacker who replaced Trotter was benched last season, and another linebacker who was suppose to help us get younger was traded away. Last offseason, we lost Brian Dawkins, the face of the Philadelphia Eagles defense, a HUGE leader in the organization, because management was too stingy to give him a decent contract offer. Huge loss for us. Earlier this offseason, we released Brian Westbrook, the key to our offense this decade, and later traded away cornerback Sheldon Brown, one of the better shutdown corners in the league. Now we trade away McNabb, and we literally have no veterans on this team. Hopefully our front office knows what they are doing, because right now, it doesn't look good. I'll back my team, because that's what real fans do, but I have to be honest, I don't know what to expect this upcoming season.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
First Blog
So this is my first blog. What does one say on their first blog writing? I don't know. If I knew, I wouldn't be talking about what to write, instead I would be writing about that.
So do you ever have that one day where something amazing happens, or something really cool happens, but you never write it down, and then it eventually gets lost in your memory. Well for me, it doesn't get lost in my memory, but I always say, 'man, I should write that down.' So I finally got one of these blogging websites and decided to start doing that. Who knows what I will write on here. Maybe I will have a crazy dream that I feel needs to be shared, or maybe I will just talk about how my day went. Who knows, but I feel that I now have a place to express myself and just say what I want.
So I will assume if you are still reading at this point, you are either a friend who is curious as to what I am gonna write next, your bored with nothing else to do at the moment, or your a major stalker. Either way, I'm glad I could entertain you for the few minutes that you have spent reading this nonsense of a first blog, and I invite you to come back, in the next day or so, where the 'action' will start to get heated up and something more interesting will be blogged about.
So do you ever have that one day where something amazing happens, or something really cool happens, but you never write it down, and then it eventually gets lost in your memory. Well for me, it doesn't get lost in my memory, but I always say, 'man, I should write that down.' So I finally got one of these blogging websites and decided to start doing that. Who knows what I will write on here. Maybe I will have a crazy dream that I feel needs to be shared, or maybe I will just talk about how my day went. Who knows, but I feel that I now have a place to express myself and just say what I want.
So I will assume if you are still reading at this point, you are either a friend who is curious as to what I am gonna write next, your bored with nothing else to do at the moment, or your a major stalker. Either way, I'm glad I could entertain you for the few minutes that you have spent reading this nonsense of a first blog, and I invite you to come back, in the next day or so, where the 'action' will start to get heated up and something more interesting will be blogged about.
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